And so we close another weekend and prep expecting success this week! In that spirit, I was asked today, in an email from Entrepreneur Shanda Sumpter, if I am a Seeker or Creator. That made me wonder, which are you?
I know so many of us are Seekers. For a seeker, it is knowledge and discovery that drive us to download one more thing. We will fill in a sign up for one more course “because it was cheap.” It is likely why you ended up loving the complexity of life sciences and reading astrology or plant based alternatives and studying the Yoga Sutra when no one was forcing you to.
Seekers have no problem dropping their credit card down to sign-up for all the courses that promise results,( tax deduction right?) but we sure will hesitate when someone wants us to treat ourselves to a luxury bag for the same fee. I mean did we earn it? Am I right? But then I ask myself…”Did I earn the right to read when I buy another recommended book online? I mean how many saved articles on one thing do I want to read before trying to ask people what THEY are interested in a course about?
… But, we get stuck in that academic expert identity.
We take forever in the muck of learning everything ourselves, as if we need a degree in it before using it. Therefore we never get the confidence and competency levels to succeed. We end up not having the money for the coach but then overtaxing our nervous systems and overspending on low ROI investments over and over. Even worse, maybe we start attracting the seekers that do this to our programs and packages too. This may be the reason you feel the need to undercharge at a zone your customers and clients feel they can “lose” if they buy and don’t do. Because you make it so easy to buy and don’t do.
What if you flip the switch and be the one that offers the win? What if there are people that never actually win because they paid enough to actually pay attention and give you the financial wiggle room to do what you do best?
Seekers often struggle with perfection or consistent momentum.
If they ( or we) are disappointed by the results it is not because Seekers never start. It is often because Seekers started something and then never see it through. We jump to something else at the first sign of success in the last thing. That is not having too many choices. That is a deficit in the core leadership skill of making a decision and seeing it through. Most of the time it is organizational and all of the time there is an emotion tied to the performance. If you seem to sell but do not have much active participation then it may be the experience in the community or…
It may just be that you tend to sell to those people that are okay with a broken contract with them self. If you never sell are you sure the offer sucks or do you just not ask enough? Either is a self sabotaging thing to do. I know that after a while, I may say no to yoga practice long enough to not even pay attention to the memory of how great it feels to keep the practice. It is that type of broken promise to oneself that is going to need to be avoided. So send emails and let people filter themselves out by leaving your email list. That type of self filtering is actually keeping your email list clean for you and then you will landing in more email inboxes of people that want to read them too. Even if they leave, that is data. That is also not to say they won’t consume and love every one of your posts so long as you are not forcing them to look at themselves at the same time. That will get them to reconnect on a future offer when they are ready to and you will get better results and testimonials.
Creators will stay to play. Visionaries will stay to strategize with you. Seekers may even reply to an email on a survey but their actual power to make a serious financial, personal or spiritual decision to commit might not yet be there. Unlike the Visionaries, changing the course of impact, influence or income is not part of everyone’s world view right now. Maybe some need to develop a character trait for the next season’s vision. If that is the case, what can you still offer them on the spot?
So how to avoid the broken promises of not having the time this week?
First, we need to become the creator and stop being a seeker. Chances are you already know enough but are not doing what you know you could do. That is someone stopping at the intention.
Next, we need to stop all the positive intending affirmations and make Monday Morning Proclamations for the week. If you can commit to take just one more action and ask that someone keep you accountable then it won’t matter when you say, “I do not have the time” for something you wanted to do. I am not recommending you hold no boundaries. I am suggesting you figure out the difference between boundaries and blockages. What do you need if you are shifting the matrix enough to process and progress?
That is a trick for the seeker. Just open up one tab on that course sitting out in cyberspace. It is better than never actually showing up and doing the work to prove it can or can’t help right?
Finally, become the The Creator.
The Creator is picking a successful friend to hold her accountable on Sunday.
She is declaring a specific goal to attain weekly, maybe even daily.
She is attending opportunities to ask questions and posting on her Facebook page a specific ask with the expectation people want to give her direction and support.
This entrepreneur is not spending hours at a job away from her family but then saying the lie that money means nothing to her.
That is a funny way to behave if that were true. It is okay to want to make a sale. Which of these is you?
Honestly, no judgement; but, if you are going to be impressed with your results, then let’s tap into the psychology behind your behaviors. What made you last say “tomorrow” you will do it? Why do you say that every day? Is the solution more time or more freedom in the time you have? Is the problem no money or do you need better core circles for financial loans, money less strategy or repositioning support?
Sometimes we have even deeper mental paradigms around financial power and fear financial success on our own. We can be taking from the financial bank to fill our emotional bank accounts and then find ourselves unworthy when we are starting something new and making different money. There is a ton that can be on autopilot around humbleness and niceness since childhood. Many times we are simple not associating yet with the identity we want to be inside supportive containers where it is perfectly normal to live, love and look the part of a successful leading woman. We may be bleeding complacency and can’t quite shake the emotional strongholds to the last peer groups we outgrew and want to be a big fish in. To figure out if that is the case, ask yourself “What do I get out of the present network, the way I work now, how I use my non work hours.” and “ How am I sharing my gifts right now?”
We need to know our inner hero to understand which villian to look out for.
“You know what they call a Superhero that does everything themselves and never listens to anyone?—-A Villian” - Five speaking to Victor on Umbrella Academy Season 3, Netflix
And you are not alone. We all have been there.
We buy so much DIY stuff and what we really need is to invest in a coach to get through the overwhelm paralysis.
Doesn’t it always seem like you just make the time and a life curve happens to take that space from you? I found this to be the case until I hit my breaking point. There may be times I need to hire out on a project and work harder to pay back the debt. There may be times I need a consultant to just tell me what to do because I do not have the money to waste and an investment in them now will save my medical co pays for sanity and the tons of redo. I can literally be buying back my time doing a VIP one day rather than a year of coaching between idea and execution.
REframes around value and time are one of the most pivoting mental leaps we must do. When you are serious about moving from clinician to creator, then creating a new consistent additional income stream becomes less about what you know and more about...
Getting in the right rooms to hear the right a$$ saving conversations.
Joining the right groups for your place on the journey. Don’t join the procrastinators club when you want to get past procrastination. Join the masterminds that hold you accountable even if you are crying while taking the leaps because they are the energy of the who you are becoming.
Focus on goal achieving not making. Make goals in what you really envision being free to be and then reverse engineer it.
We reach a breakthrough vision if forced to function as the new identity much quicker than coddling you and trying to add on skills that the old you would not need to do.
WE all know how to get XYZ done no matter what the chaos, so when we remain functioning as the person that is not making this XYZ a priority in our day it is likely us not owning our Kairos.
Homework This Week:
As they say, we all have the same amount of hours in a day but we need to understand that what we mentally do with that time is more about our kairos perspective of time. While Chronos is quantitative, Kairos is qualitative.
Creators do the same research but they are the finishers. Your assignment, should you accept the challenge is to own your Kairos time to always have Chronos time.
Make a list every morning by 7:00 am with 6 quality uses of time you promise yourself to use in the time you would otherwise be scrolling on social media. Cross off each, no matter how big or small. Rate your progress each day from 0-10 and then keep adding new things to the list to always have six.
“Remember, Clinicians become Creators when they get results. They get results because they do the work.They do they work because of their character displayed in their behaviors not showing off their battle wounds from the chaos.”
xoxo- Dr. Lisa
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