Get the Hell Out of My Way Ladies!
Unless you are standing there open to some coaching.
Welcome to this week’s Curvy Hustle Love Letter. This week I came across a solid leadership post by an early online personally branded, marketing mentor of mine, Chalene Johnson. I have been re packaging my 30 Day Executive Leadership Jumpstart Program which will come out later this week with a new offer and increased price. This led me to review some of the business architecting tools I had been trained in from Chalene’s Marketing Impact Academy back in 2016.
To put things in perspective this is a love letter on haters, social love and leadership for today.
Chalene is a high achiever fitness guru turned big time business mogul with her husband Brad as her original business partner and now she has brought in her son. Her personal brand is now her ever evolving move from fitness to business coach and now ADHD CEO mentor. I have followed her into being much more authentic around her core family values, multi-millionaire online business coaching needs and struggles in releasing her old identity as a long time fitness industry authority. In other words, I connected to the spirit of a Curvy Hustler in her. Anyways, this is not a love note about her but rather a love letter to show you that YOU are always going to have haters, like she did on this post, so you might as well write the book, post the challenge, and ask the questions no one else has the guts to if that is who you are.
Do It or Stop Hating on Other People That Have The Guts to Do It.
I don’t know but women use words to wound way better than men. The problem is we tend to use the most wounding ones on unproductive use of our energy like calling out other women who are making life better for other people. This is especially frustrating to see if the other women is helping other women and their families. If you don’t want women, that fight for their space at the gold table, to hold their personal power proudly up when they get there, then you are not an ally. We have to stop promoting girl power in the process of shaming girls with power. Now I am not going to get into the use of our bodies and sexuality as power right now because personally I think we have remained in our primal nature too long but, I will speak to a related issue tied to that same pelvic power center. What I am talking about is not sex but rather it’s twin super power called money! We either let ALL people stand up for what money they made flow through them or we don’t. WE either attach money to a look at the entire person’s character who holds that power or… you run the risk of making it harder for women to make luxury living something that can co exist with living loving and holy. That is not to say we have to support every woman for everything they stand for. It is just to say that if we run a social platform, we are stronger on it showing up being who ever we feel we are. Just know, if you are a people pleaser you will quieting resent someone showing up not being one. If you do not believe in being holy and having luxury in your life, then some people that are blending it and doing good for others are still going to look like the villian to you. If you need a lot of external validation and permission to post a blog or newsletter imperfectly each week and someone else doesn’t, then you are probably not going to subscribe to getting it.
What I Am Asking for is Support to Support You
Our behaviors are the key. Sure I can set this email up with some tracking systems but I would love to keep it simple and sane. How about full transparency. How about you letting me and my new company protect your privacy but flat out asking for your opinion instead of having to figure your motives out? I will be doing a lot more surveys and sending helpful assessments to better understand how to service you best. I would love for you to fill them out and let me help you instead of tracking everything you post. IN other words, can you and I just simply be in a real relationship?
Simple right? It is one part conscious control but most of our behaviors are from the underlying subconscious mental mind songs we play and end up dancing to so it is important we bring back the art of having an actual conversation. Chalene’s post triggered money songs that started playing in some fans heads. The post was an attempt at having a conversation. She inferred she needed to explain herself but the reality is, she did not have to, she wanted to. She wanted to explain why she was pushing a boundary with her audience’s relationship with wealth, wellbeing and the good, christian woman’s sacrifice she is more comfortably known for. Showing up in business and personal authenticity like this is a dance you and I need to learn. How about we continue to do it together. I will just be the nerd collecting some conversation starters and articles and updates on how to play the game and you can buy back your hours and mental headspace. How does that sound?
See, any hustle is hard and as a woman I just think it is especially complicated. No one really taught us feminine styled leadership and we all just are learning masculine style codes from the outside. This inner dance of power is more of a vortex or an infinite spiral. I keep discovering another layer on my own sacred success path and this is why I envision a virtual and in person experience every time I write this newsletter.
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The main takeaway lesson this week
So, I hope you can take away that haters gonna hate but we as women, I believe we have some different gifts. If we are in a relationship with the feel of our own feminine inside, we can always show strength and communicate boundaries but still look for the deeper seeds of pain in people. If you have the ability to speak to that, you will always be an alchemist of gold but first, we need to get in better relationship with ourselves before we hold that power. If not, we might be like Eve and have a lot more more responsibility with that wisdom than we bargained for. Actually, leadership overall is a skill that can be learned only by understanding ourselves intimately and that level of intimacy is beyond personal development. It is soul work and that is why I believe so many men are being challenged evolving into conscious leaders. It is why so many women that were conditioned to let go of their feminine in leadership roles are hurting and getting physically and energetically empty. This shift in power is going to need us to study who we are in bigger bowls than our own home zones. It will challenge us to communicate and solve related misunderstandings we hold around the theme of emotional attachment and self value across our lives and company demographics.
Evidence This is a Modern Day Medicine Woman Rising
I send you a huge kiss if you are also one.
BY the way…this hate Chalene got was after the last couple of years of sharing how she was helping her father in law live fully while losing his memories to Alzheimer’s as well as her pivoting her empire brand to manage the pandemic too. She also has been address being mishandled by a healthcare provider’s respect of her body during surgery, and then getting sued for speaking so publicly about it to warn others and sharing the extra hard task of being a neurodivergent CEO.
Just to be clear, I write in a way that might look like a brain dump but it is often a blend of some channeling and then me trying to edit it to make it somewhat comprehensible. The newsletters will be long and my emails to my list are getting a lot shorter. Please expect I will write imperfectly and still send it because I am focused on the message and sometimes I purposely speak in parable, like the good Lord taught how to. Consider it my spiritual filters and tagging. I have just found that my shares are basically holding the best wisdom when offered like livestreaming. If you want to volunteer to become a part of my editing team and help me with it I would love that! Just reply back and we will chat. Right now getting this out every weekend consistently is the goal because I want to make sure I offer some support to if you are still hiding because you are afraid of the haters. Plus, it will be a nice way to close out your last week and set you up on a love and leadership positive mental vibe for the next one.
So to round things out this week…
There have been and will continue to be a higher moral standard to women.
This is why we need safe circles without other women hater in them to evolve and be allowed to grow. It is also why I am solid on promoting the level of holding onto one’s character at the level of a modern day medicine women. WE are no longer stopping at people’s bodies. Some of us have been chosen to become social healers publically. Just so you understand, this is not a lifestyle for the weary. We need a weekly newsletter and some social sharing.
This is not regularly experienced work life integration and the energy balance problem many women you see posting. This is not about being under the title of head of this or director of this working for someone else. Soul healing and entrepreneurship as a spiritual developmental training school is something entirely different to deal with. It is another dimension of self care when you are writing your own paychecks and are getting kicked in the gut over and over by the way you do it. I mean the healing and learning as a business builder on their own healer’s journey is never really ending. I just walked through five years of stepping up and then almost immediately stepping into the resistance. Mine was the questionable death of my father, one week after almost being killed or severely maimed in a car accident. Then there was the a legal issue from my dad’s death to deal with in 2015-2016, and just when I thought it was safe enough to surrender that old clinical identity as a clinical service provider, my marriage and home and life I built around all them blew up. There was literally nothing to fall back on that is when I knew, It was The Phoenix rising vibe I was anointed into. It was the Universe burning the damn nest I just flew out of, not my ex husband or me, as I started to fly and rise from the personal limits I once knew. I was never going to be stepping fully into my gifted power if out of love, I would keep redirecting my energy too much into people that did not know what to do with it. Needless to say, that partnership was over before the pandemic hit. Then the real healing journey began but it was with everyone.
I have come across way too many women through my podcast interviews or being the one interviewed over that past five to six years to ignore that somehow, some way, we all have walked into some dimension of a new world story together. So may women leaders I admired in their own entrepreneurship quests have had this extra weird extra layer of personal chaos transform how they want to make a living and how they will leave a legacy too. So many of them seem to be breaking generational chains like me and shifting the look of womanhood and humanity. I am way too faith based to not see we must be doing this together for a reason.
This is an annointinting. I suspect you are figuring this out too. This is a conversation that can only be held in conversation with another faith based entrepreneur so I look forward to sharing this weekly space with you.
I invite you to share this with anyone you think is in the same struggles. We are in this together. If you ran across this it was meant to be so subscribe and come back every week. Tag me on my IG @drlisahollandpt when you are proudly showing off the life on IG you earned with your wins like Chalene did this past week. I would love if anything resonates or inspires you to curve a bit more visibly. Comment about this.
I promise, right now, I personally am in the position to read every one of them.