Code Switching and Style Flexing
Your personal style flex matters
What is a personal style flex? It is the cumulative energies and attitude you bring into the dynamic of any interaction and if you can’t style flex then you limit the experiences you have interacting with different people. This initial meeting of the minds is not really a logic based thing. It is even harder when my clients or I would have a firm personality style that is highly controlling or very analytical while I myself, and many more positive focused perspective people, tend to be promoters and supporters. This is why style flexing and code switching skills are some of the most powerful ways we can move a conversation forward and move a person forward if they are stuck on how to navigate their own solutions at any point in a true coaching partnership or experiential learning approach.
Code switching is something I believe is an even deeper leadership and relationship intelligence skill that gets really lost in all the confusion between sexuality and power dynamics in relationships. If you can move beneath the emotional and into a more quantum energy, a primal and intimate level of understanding everything is energy then it makes style flexing kind of learning a new dance. There are certain distinct steps to be made at a certain pace in response to reading and feeling your partner or the beat of the environment all around. This is the energy of attraction or replusion we feel when we meet someone or enter a room. It is the 6th sense rooted intuitive feel and if we were to dissect it, it comes down to two things, a lean into love or a lean into fear.
Tantra Yoga off the mat…and way out of any bedrooms.
It is my belief that it is this dance, between the two core drivers of every behavior humans ever do, that most people that seem to get what they want out of people, places and processes, seem to master. It is this code flexing that helps move an authority conversation into an attracting one and an attraction into an enrollment and an enrollment into a fan for life. Lifers are made, not found and the earlier you can communicate the connection is there then the longer the client / customer lifecycle or the longer and more intimate the romantic relationship or the more trusting and deep the friendship.
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“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” ~ Albert Einstein
Think about it. Einstein got it. Jesus got it, the ancient Egyptians got it… Life Science and Spirituality are not extreme opposites. There is a conscious and unconscious perspective of the world and beyond it. Spirituality is the study of your power in body, mind and soul. Life Science is the study of your vitality ( power) in body, mind and soul. Each and every cell is in your body has it’s own powerhouse and energy management system and these systems seem to play off each other in a health promoting or health deteriorating way.
Life science understands there was one great force or bang of Ultimate energy that broke into everything we know. If we break down the qualities of these forces all around us and produced by this bang, we will eventually get down to their sources…an attractor receiver and a catalyst seeker. The masculine and feminine energies fit nicely into that visual. They, taking out all the physical sexuality at a very primal metabolic level, evoke emotions. These energies in motion empower us to act and interact in relationship with our inner and outer self view and each other.
The next layer…if you are ready
These polarities, not opposites, are constantly moving towards or away from each other and just like watching someone spin a flashlight quickly around, it will appear there is a visible spectrum of light to follow. Well that is what we can use to understand the bridge of spectrums between the masculine and feminine expressions we see. We may have understood there was a pattern and then designed a human construct around these patterns but that is how human brains work. We are not anti equality when we accept that. What we confuse ourselves with is that there is a human ego that seems to be our species level alone’s. What people say is the biasing social construct is actually the look of ego and fear as opposed to these forces in relationship through love and acceptance.
Life would be so much easier to understand if we could just listen to Einstein and consider everything in the metaphysical first.
What we need to agree on is that we have proven to not live in a Universe of matter. We live in a Universe of energy and as much as that may be a mind boggling thing to accept as you push the buttons of your phone, consider this; right now there are millions of cell phones getting and transmitting waves you can not see to the local towers. Where are those frequencies before you pick one up on your phone as a call to you directly? That is the evolution of the science and our current understood fact. Therefore, any constructed scientific bias against the fact that the metaphysical impacts what we have in the physical is on a very thin sheet of ice now. These forces are interestingly consistent and universally spoken of in all spiritual traditions and the most ancient writings. Do we really want to keep rationalizing that everything is so random here on Earth? That no matter how far one medicine practice was from another, that many random hypotheses or “mistakes in judgement” from all corners of the world happened and came up with so much overlap in philosophy and even best practices? Places that never had any interactions for thousands of years but yet, had similar moral structures in social stories and similar natural healing ways? Come on now!
So, this is a nice moment in time to be a metaphysician. So many mainstream folks are learning how to control and recognize this reality of power dances going on in you and with you. Your sacred success in life, meaning actual degree of doing what you are called to do throughout your life, depends more on what you can not see yet that is all around you in the now. Makes perfect sense to be still and calm the mind so your person and purpose can meet and give you a process right? If you are servicing people to become more conscious of their own power to do that too then you are born at the most perfect time in history. We are in for the greatest number of people that will want to work with you.
What do you think about these thoughts? What are you making of this whole experience of beingness in this world? What feels like it is ready to unfold for you?
What you should consider while Moving out of 2022
The past few years has sped up the illusions and raised the consciousness level a bit faster than I believe life would have without the sheer shenanigans of the past four to six years. Let’s just take a step back and look.
All I am saying is that the more you walk and talk in alignment with what is truth, the less resistance you will get anywhere you want to go right? To someone not understanding all the work we have to do, just to hook into that inner consciousness, at the level above courage, it may seem like “the sheep” are the ones following the flow but it is exactly the opposite. The sheep are those that just trust what they seeing as the move of the herd. The one that senses danger instead of mindless submission is not the one that is complacent. I learned to protect my energy and use it because I naturally stopped wanting to be the one triggered and reacting to life. Not when I can simply commit to become in charge of my thoughts and the impact of the emotions that are driven BEFORE the behaviors. I wish it was easy to commit but even when I know the facts I don’t which is why at some point I needed a container and community that would be above courage enough to call me out on my BS and I would have to be above courage consciousness enough to not only take it, but actually seek that depth of transformational feedback.
Style flexing and code flexing makes that control of the outcomes a lot easier but you do need to practice it, not just know about it. You need to become the smart phone when someone transmits from the tower. Do you get it? Life happens regardless of your thoughts about it until you become conscious of your thoughts. It is then that life starts happening with you and for you and eventually maybe even through you for others wellbeing. We practice the little things like a code flex with a difficult person so that we can become pros at it and basically get back to real conversations which are the seeds for a return to real relationships. That is why it is essential to know how to speak in their words and make sense to the person you are speaking to. They may have a very different behavioral profile and emotional trigger when not feeling heard or seen. That is why there is so much “copy science” in marketing and “How to books” selling for relationships. Just know, you can’t just be a skilled style and code flexer from a book. You need to be in situations where you learn, are held accountable to become the owner of this perceptive ability and then practice it to keep dancing to the beat the interaction then creates.
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